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4worldlovers: Sex and lovemaking can be the most satisfying or disappointing part of your relationship and life.

Most couples begin their relationship as a romantic passionate love affair, complete with idealization of their new love and a strong sexual desire for each other.

But, once you’re settled in the relationship, and it becomes both more serious and secure for you both, the challenge then becomes how to integrate both your intimacy and your eroticism.

Sex is about so many things; love, fun, desire, lust, connection, pleasure and intimacy. A healthy sexual connection with our partner is a very important component for a happy, fulfilling relationship. Great sex and lovemaking can be the glue that keeps you feeling deeply and physically connected with each other, enabling you to weather many other kinds of storms in your relationship and life in general.

But when we’re unsatisfied with our sex life, our whole relationship can start to go downhill.

When you’re intimate with your partner, you’re at your most vulnerable. So, if sexual issues arise, such as mismatched libido’s or erectile dysfunction, it’s understandable that one partner can take it as a personal rejection. When issues arise regularly, it’s easy for either partner to become hurt, frustrated, resentful, disconnected and feel embarrassed, undesirable or unwanted.

Whether we’d like to admit it or not, the partner with the least desire for sex always controls the frequency and quality of sex.

The paradox of sex is that when it is good and satisfying, sex plays a small but positive role in your relationship (about 15 – 20%) ; BUT when sex is unsatisfying, avoided or a problem, it plays a hugely powerful drain and negative role in your relationship (from 50 to 75%).

Ultimately your sexual relationship is meant to play an energizing role in your relationship, one that enlivens and bonds the two of you together, while giving a regular charge of energy to your love.

If your relationship is currently going through sexual difficulties, rest assured there is help available from our Hart experts in Sex Therapy and Relationships.

There is not a couple alive who has not had even the occasional difference in what they would like and expect in their sex life.

Many couples – some experts estimate about 45% – have concerns or problems with sexual desire, arousal, orgasm or sexual satisfaction. Sex problems are rarely simple.

There is not one cure-all for all sexual problems. They are a result of psychological, physical and relationship factors and can cause great emotional suffering and distress.

4worldlovers: Chantelle Otten is a Melbourne based Psycho-Sexologist who is passionate about empowering people to feel great about their sexual health, self-esteem, communication and education...

Chantelle’s role is to provide appropriate support and information about sexual health concerns to individuals, communities and professional entities through psychosexual therapy...

Chantelle has a number of courses you can access to give information about different topics. All courses are a lifetime access and help you achieve your goals from the comfort of home ...

People of all ages come to therapy to find answers, resolutions and education on sexual health and wellbeing. Here you can read about challenges faced, Chantelle's tailored approach to each case and the results gained through therapy...

Sexual Health is multifaceted and an ongoing process of physical, psychological and sociocultural well-being related to sexuality.

4worldlovers: Talking about our desires, sex, intimacy, pleasure, sexuality and our bodies can feel scary, anxiety or shame inducing, overwhelming or exhausting. We live in social structures that are sex-negative, oppressive and disembodied, where our right to pleasure and safety is denied. These same systems teach individuals they are defective if their experience is outside the white-cis-hetero non-disabled norm. So, it makes sense if you’re feeling grief, anger, loneliness, shame or fear around your sexuality, pleasure or relationships.

I know It takes immense courage to reach out, so we’re glad you’re here. When you feel ready to talk and want to expand your curiosity about what’s going on for you, tap the button below to book your initial session.

I work with a range of people with lived experiences of:

Those looking to explore embodiment, be present or re-establish a connection with their body.

Those wanting to explore or access pleasure and develop their capacity for curiosity in their bodyminds and their relationships.

People experiencing sexual desire and arousal difficulties or differences who are looking to understand themselves a little more or be find ways to navigate their desires, what they’re willing to give and their limits.

People wanting to navigate and explore asexuality or lower sexual desire and interest.

People who experience anxiety, fear, shut down or other unpleasant and unwanted experiences around sex, intimacy and pleasure.

Chronically ill, disabled and neurodivergent people who want navigate pleasure, sex, intimacy and sexuality to feel a deeper connection to their minds, bodies, communities and relationships.

People who experience unwanted pain that interferes with pleasure, sexual wellbeing, desire or relationships.

I’m Kassandra Mourikis. My pronouns are she/her. I’m a neurodivergent sexologist and embodied counsellor based in Naarm (Melbourne) offering in-person support in Hawthorn and online. Sessions are co-created, person-centred, accessible, affirming and as safe as I can make them. I work from a neuroscience and pleasure-centred framework and I value consent, anti-oppressive, disability-justice and trauma-informed practice. My work recognises systems of oppression at the core of sexual, social, psychological, emotional, relational and political challenges.

I support people to centre their pleasure and their lived experience by working somatically - through developing skills to intentionally place awareness into different aspects of their mindbody, with curiosity and create opportunities for new meaning to emerge. I have supported many individuals & couples to develop curiosity, to grow in their ability to be present, to feel more, to access pleasure, to recognise their wants and limits, to unlearn sociocultural and political narratives that no longer serve them and relearn ones that do.

As a sexologist and embodiment practitioner, I endeavour to hold space with care and congruence, be a witness to your full experience, invite you to draw on and develop your knowledge, resources, somatic practices, set intentions and collaboratively support you on your journey of change.

Embodiment processes are a relational, co-created, purposeful and trauma-informed way to build more awareness, create more choice, regulate our nervous systems and is an integral part of the process of change. Growing in embodiment involves learning how to intentionally place awareness into the present moment and increase capacity for feeling, sensing and connecting within our communities and environments. This approach to therapy is interested in meaning making, what you’re feeling and what experiencing in all aspects of your self or soma.